Friendships Are Still About Connection
Since days of long ago, friends have reached out to each other to communicate when they had to be apart….usually in the form of paper and ink. When I was a child, I had a collection of stationary – all colors, themes, some even scented, and all with matching envelopes or seals. I loved writing, sending and of course, receiving letters. I remember the excitement of checking the mail box every morning to see if a letter had arrived.
Today, my stationary sits in a box in the back of a cupboard and I don’t even know what most of my friends handwriting looks like, because I rarely have reason to see their communication in print form. It’s just another change that technology has brought to our world…but it’s also opened the door to more varied, and definitely faster means of keeping us in touch with our circle of friends. It’s so easy to send an email, a text, an e-card, or to post something to a social site. Via social sites, we get to reconnect with old friends too that we wouldn’t otherwise have opportunity to stay connected with. We get glimpses into their lives via pictures of their family, friends, and we get to share in the special events of their lives such as birthdays, weddings, births, etc.
We must also keep in mind, however, that the virtual world is not the real world….the oh so glitzy, life is good, best bits glimpses into other’s lives are not a true picture of reality. The Bible warns against being envious of what others have or of judging others which is a hard thing for all of us to not be tempted to do. So many times I have thought someone just had that perfect, all together life only to find out with closer scrutiny that it was just a front they would put out for the world to see, while real world life for them was actually ” a hot mess.” God wants us to be like Paul, content with what we have, where he has placed us, and to focus on doing the best we can with what we have…as wives, moms, employees, bosses, and as friends.
Friendships are a wonderful thing, and God can richly bless us via modern technology and especially via forms of portable media access to help us stay connected to each other. Via media, we can also find and connect with people that we wouldn’t otherwise cross paths with via blogs, and social sites, and God can use those people to enrich our lives. I have met many special people over the past few months just from blogging. They have taught me, inspired me, and enriched my life. It has been good for me to read the blogs and websites of other women who are trying to be godly wives and moms because it helps me keep my focus and perspective where God wants it to be.
9 Ointment and perfume delight the heart,
And the sweetness of a man’s friend gives delight by hearty counsel. Proverbs 27
As Christians, we have a responsibility to honor God with our connections to others, and we should be careful to make sure that whatever we communicate to others reflects his love, and honors him. I have tried to be careful with what I put in written form that can be publicly viewed by others, and to not get caught up in the HE said, SHE said, kinds of conflict that so easily occur. When I’ve messed up, however, I’ve had to make formal apology as well and try to make amends or clear up any misunderstanding. Just the other day my feelings got hurt because I was told about wrong information being gossiped about me…I had to just remember that when misunderstandings occur, God knows the truth and He is ultimately in charge. I resisted the urge to post a comment and just handed it over to Him to take care of (and He did).
In today’s fast paced world, we should cherish our friendships, and the means to so easily stay in touch with those we care about. We should remember, however, to make sure that at times our closest friendships get preserved with more personable communication too….an actual phone call vs a text, maybe a birthday card via snail mail vs email, and of course – one on one time with each other face to face without any of the distractions of modern technology.
Prayer For Your Friendships: May your friendships be cherished, preserved, and blessed by the Father above who looks down on us with joy when our ability to relate to each other reflects His love for us. Image Above: Copyright (c) 123RF Stock Photos