The Blame Game has been around for a long time.
Genesis 3:12 And the man said, The woman whom thou gavest to be with me, she gave me of the tree, and I did eat.
Genesis 3:13 And the LORD God said unto the woman, What is this that thou hast done? And the woman said, The serpent beguiled me, and I did eat.
Genesis 4:9 And the LORD said unto Cain, Where is Abel thy brother? And he said, I know not: Am I my brother’s keeper?
In fact, it is prevalent throughout the Bible, and is still a well played game today. Children use it frequently because they naturally want to rationalize wrong behaviors and get out of trouble. It is easy to recognize when a child uses it…but what about when we use it ourselves? We may not even be aware that we are doing it.
I was sitting through a webinar at my job a few weeks ago. The webinar was about improving the relationships between nurses and therapists. They began talking about how one group will blame the other and refered to the idiom of “throwing someone under the bus.” The problem identified was how that always keeps the pot stirred and creates separation, “us vs them”. As I heard the examples used, I thought, how justified those statements were, and I use them myself in pointing a finger at the other discipline as a group. So, I really had to dig through my rationalization to see the errors of my ways. Example “Nursing doesn’t care about the patient. It’s just a job to them.” I’ve felt that way many times and have been quick to verbalize it to others. But is that fair? Or am I throwing them under the bus without really knowing the circumstances. Maybe I am wrong in my assumptions and they do care. Maybe there are aspects of their jobs that I don’t understand. Maybe the stresses of performing their jobs give the wrong impression. Maybe they are doing the best they can.
God convicted me, no doubt. And I am working on changing this wrong behavior. To throw someone under the bus is equivalent to using others as a scapegoat.
The origin of the scapegoat is a goat over the head of which the high priest of the ancient Jews confessed the sins of the people on the Day of Atonement, after which it was allowed to escape: Lev. 16:7-26. Don’t we want our wrong doings to run away? Don’t we want to vent our frustrations when something is not how we want it to be? How convenient to place them on someone else.
Challenge: May I challenge you to pay attention to how many times you use a group or individual as a scapegoat. Pay attention to how you defend yourself and make sure you don’t throw someone under the bus in the process. The Bible says: 2 Corinthians 5:10 For we must all appear before the judgment seat of Christ, that each one may receive the things done in the body, according to what he has done, whether good or bad. Instead of looking for that scapegoat, let’s try to find a different solution and work on building each other up, working together to solve problems instead of blaming.
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